for those that are curious when we are going to have children the answer is......
we don't know
and
we don't know if ever will be.
i used to always want kids, and part of me still does, but not all of my parts. (there's got to be a better way to word that!)
rie and i tend to get jealous of our friends when ever any of them have a baby, but then we talk about it and agree that we aren't ready for one. it would be like if someone we know bought a new cadillac. we would be envious because they got a brand new car, but at the same time.......we don't want a cadillac!!!
don't misunderstand, if we turned out to be pregnant tomorrow, we would fully love our child. it would be an amazing change in our lives, but as i told my mom, as much as we would passionately love any child we were blessed with, we don't passionately want to have children.
it's funny how something that you want so badly at certain times of your life can become less of a priority at a different time. even in high school i would have told you that i didn't care what my career was, i just wanted to be a dad (not while i was in high school though!) but now, now i am so excited to look to a near future that has us out of debt and the ability to live lives that we thought we'd only have to dream of. it's not that we think kids would ruin those plans, they just don't seem to be apart of the equation.
i'm not naive enough to think that should we not have children ever, that there wouldn't be a time later where i would wonder what our kids would have been like, but at the same time, as i've said before, for marie and i, children wouldn't define us. we are content in our current decisions and are aware that there is obviously a passing window for us to decide if we did want kids.
how about you? have you always wanted kids? did you want more kids than you've had, less? what are your thoughts?
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Did you add that "less" in there for me? ;)
We didn't "plan" on getting pregnant a month into our marriage, but that's what happened...and then we just kept on going, and going, and going, and done. Whew.
You and Rie would make great parents, but you also do very well with you are as a family of two. I'll like you both ways. :)
I have many thoughts on this subject, but that's for an e-mail or better yet, a real conversation.
Ah, what a big subject, and one I've wrestled with a lot lately. We want a baby so badly. We would be actively trying to create little people right now were it not for circumstances. A couple of weeks ago I got in a funk about it for days...the only thing I could think was, "Why does money have to be an issue? Why do I have to feel like a baby is a luxury item I can't yet afford, like a plasma tv?" Of course it isn't that simple, but it does really suck. As a female, there's a biological need there that almost hurts. Ugh. Anyway, that's where we're at!
I fully respect your current position on the subject. There's never a perfect time to have kids, of course (if at all), but there are definitely times that are better than others. If you're going to be parents, the time for that will be made plain to you.
Now excuse me while I apply that little pearl of wisdom to myself. Ouch.
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